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Vietnam has always been one country that was always on my travel bucket list. My numerous trips to Thailand took me one step closer to Vietnam. In fact, the country’s proximity to Thailand would’ve made it the perfect getaway for a quick visa run.
This Southeast Asian country seemingly has it all: beautiful beaches, low cost of living and, and last but definitely not least, beautiful women.
Since I haven’t been to Vietnam, I’ve asked my friend Roberto to write about his experiences in the country. I met Roberto back in 2015 while he was on a short trip to Kyiv, Ukraine. Roberto is originally from Mexico but has been living in Vietnam for over four years. For as long as I’ve known Roberto, he’s always had a thing for Asian women, and after dating lots of women for a long time, he finally settled down with a Vietnamese girlfriend.
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Roberto, why don’t you tell us about Vietnamese women.
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Mar 13, 2021 Currently some of the top nightclubs and singles bars to pick up San Francisco girls would be: Mezzanine at 444 Jessie St. Temple at 540 Howard St. Madrone Art Bar at 500 Divisadero St. Public Works at 161 Erie St. F8 Nightclub & Bar at 1192 Folsom St. Love + Propaganda at 85 Campton Pl. Raven Bar at 1151 Folsom St. DNA Lounge at 375 11th St.
I love Vietnam. Although I’ve spent a good amount of time in Thailand, I realized that Thailand is rapidly becoming Westernized—plus Thailand has been making it really hard for foreigners to stay long term—so I decided to explore another Southeastern country: Vietnam.
Vietnam is very similar to Thailand. It’s the same tropical climate, the same hustle, and bustle, the same great food (different but still great).
But there are crucial differences as well. First of all, I’d say that Vietnam (especially the northern part) is closer to China in mentality than to its Southeast Asian counterparts. Vietnamese women (more on that soon) are more conservative than Thai women. Thailand is a more developed country than Vietnam and, as an English speaker, you’ll have an easier time in the former than in the latter.
Vietnam also has a reputation for more scams than other countries in the region. Everyone out there has known someone that was somehow ripped off in Vietnam (you'd probably get ripped off, too, James [chuckles]). Moreover, in Asia, when you’re ripped off, it’s never violent or anything. It’s usually something very innocent, that you even don’t realize until you get home or the very next day.
The women
Vietnamese women are very traditional and conservative. Of course, there are exceptions, but I’m speaking in a general sense here. I feel they’re closer in mentality to Chinese women (especially in the Northern part, in the city of Hanoi).
Vietnamese women are some of the most traditional and family-oriented of all Southeast Asian women. Even more so than Thai women. Whereas Thai women are quickly going the way of Western women (especially in Bangkok), Vietnamese women have retained their traditional characteristics and charm.
Most people believe that it’s the Eastern European women that are traditional, but after spending a year living in Ukraine, Vietnamese women are traditional on a completely another level. (My experience has shown that Ukrainian women are actually far from conservative that people make them out to be, but that’s for another article.)
Are Vietnamese the most traditional in the world? I would say so, but I haven’t been to China yet to compare them with what I view as mega traditional Chinese women.
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The ultimate goal for the majority of Vietnamese women is marriage. All good Vietnamese women are looking into getting serious relationships where the end goal is marriage and kids.
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That’s also why relationships move extremely fast in Vietnam. You meet a girl, enter a relationship, and, before you know it, you’re married with a kid or two. Just kidding (but not really).
My personal experience mirrors this. I would meet a girl, go on a few dates with her, build attraction, and right after we have sex, she’d feel that we’re now exclusive and start acting like my girlfriend. All of this usually happened so quickly that I barely had a chance to reflect what had actually happened.
This is obviously very different from how American and other Western women act. To an average American woman, sex means almost nothing, so it takes a lot more than mere sex to get her interested in you. That’s because of a typical Western woman, sex is a regular act as breathing. It takes a lot more to get a girl attached to you than just having sex.
In a sense, an average Vietnamese woman is like what an American woman was fifty years ago or so. It’s like traveling back in time.
Vietnamese and Filipino women
When I initially moved to Vietnam, I couldn’t help to compare Vietnamese women to the women in the Philippines, a country where I spent about a year before that.
There are a lot of similarities between Vietnamese and Filipino women (and also Indonesian women). Both are very sexy. Both are looking for a husband. And both can be very cunning and manipulative in order to get what they want. The main difference comes down to your taste of women and the country itself. I personally didn’t like the Philippines too much (I thought it was a shithole) and find Vietnam much more hospitable for a good quality of life.
Having said that, I do believe that Filipino women are a tad sexier than Vietnamese women, but only just that—a tad. Both are great options, so you shouldn’t be disappointed with either one.
Family connections
When you marry a Vietnamese woman, you marry her entire family. That’s just how it is. That means many things such as more responsibility, connections and even possibly unexpected financial obligations.
One of the sticking topics, when it comes marrying a local woman for Westerners, is that they’re automatically perceived as having lots of money so the family might pressure your new wife for some financial “help.” In order to avoid this problem, make sure you marry a woman from a good family instead of a woman whose family doesn’t have much money and sees you like an unlimited ATM account.
On the other hand, family connections can be one of your biggest assets. They can help you with things that you otherwise couldn’t do yourself, especially in a country like Vietnam where it really helps to know locals that you can trust. So, like nothing, there are various pros and cons to this arrangement.
The dating game plan
Dating in Vietnam isn’t much different from the rest of the world. The following is my game plan when dating Vietnamese women.
For the first date, I like to keep super simple. A coffee house. A fun bar. Maybe even a walk. Something like that. What I don’t like to do is invite a girl over to a full-blown restaurant and then see her order the most expensive items on the menu.
Yes, this has happened to me a couple of times. So, by inviting her to a basic coffee shop or a bar, I instantly filter out all the gold diggers (more on that later) and only deal with women who’re interested in meeting a new man in their life.
For the second date, I like to do something similar, maybe see a movie or something or just go for a long walk so that the woman gets more comfortable with me. I view these dates as nothing more than tools to build comfort.
Then, for the third date, I like to invite a girl over my pad to watch some Netflix and hang out. Maybe drink some wine (or whatever else the girl likes). Once we’re on the couch, I make my move and go for the kill.
While I’ve gotten pushbacks and rejections every now and then, this strategy has been solid and has worked really well.
A quick tip: don’t bring up the topic of sex early on in the interaction. This is not America where you can talk about sex in the first ten minutes of meeting a girl. A Vietnamese girl can be easily turned off with your aggressiveness and stop answering your messages. This has happened to me when I first arrived in the country, but now I know better.
Other than that, just apply standard game and you should be all good.
Warning signs and red flags
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While Vietnamese women are super feminine and affectionate, not all of them have your best interests in mind. Remember, Vietnam is a country of scams, more so than other Southeast Asian countries, so it naturally helps to keep your guard up when dealing with these women.
If a woman mentions the topic of money, especially in the initial stages of dating, take it as a huge red flag. Such women are most likely after your wallet and other resources and aren’t interested in you as a person, regardless of what they say. Ignore such women and move on.
If a woman is ready to have sex with you upon meeting you and doesn’t hesitate to come back to your place (or hotel) after the first date, realize that she’s probably has done it before. Whether that makes her suitable for a long-term relationship or even marriage is really up to you.
Other red flags are if a woman broaches the topic of sex first. As typical Vietnamese women typically don’t talk about sex right away, this is another red flag. Also, watch out for the usual signs: if she smokes, has tattoos, there’s tension in the family, etc.
But all of these flags are just that: flags. Ultimately, you have to trust your gut and decide if it’s someone with whom you can have a great time or someone with whom you can build a family with. Nobody else can make that decision for you except yourself.
Where to meet Vietnamese women
Vietnamese women are everywhere. Unlike in America, they’re not really used to be approached by random guys, so if you decide to do that, you will have a certain advantage over the other guys. You can approach them in malls, coffee shops, restaurants, etc. Anytime a girl catches your eye, don’t hesitate to approach her and say hi.
Out of all the times that I’ve approached women, I’ve never had a situation where I was outright rejected and made fun of. So, don’t worry about being labeled as “creep” or anything like that. That won’t happen. The worst that might happen is that a woman will politely decline your approach. In that case, you can just approach a new woman. In the end, it’s all a numbers game, anyway.
Nightlife in Vietnam is definitely happening but, because, the list of bars and clubs changes rapidly. You should get the latest data when you get on the ground.
One way to show a Vietnamese girl a good time would be to take her out for karaoke. Karaoke is big in Vietnam and chances are your girl has been doing it for a long time. Thus, she would absolutely be open and excited to go.
How to meet Vietnamese women online
A much better way to meet Vietnamese women would be online. Not only are the women of a higher caliber, but you can start meeting them while you’re still sitting on your couch in your apartment whether you’re in LA, NYC, London or somewhere else. That’s called pipelining and is really a solid way to build up a list of women to meet so that you don’t waste much time when you arrive in the country.
There’s definitely no shortage of online dating sites to meet Vietnamese women. First, we have the infamous Tinder where you can swipe left or right, depending on whether you’re interested or not interested in the woman. Tinder works well, but there’s one problem: the women on it are mostly low quality who's not really suitable for long term relationships.
A much better online dating site for meeting women is Vietnam Cupid. (Check out our review of Vietnam Cupid here.) It’s a site that I personally used when I first arrived in Vietnam and helped me land my first quality girlfriend. Compared to Tinder, the women you meet on Vietnam Cupid are of much higher quality than you’ll find pretty much elsewhere. I highly recommend this site to every man who wants to meet Vietnamese women.
Final thoughts
Well, that was longer than I expected. Thankfully, you don’t need much to get started. All you need to do is get on one of these dating sites, start chatting with women and then book your trip to Vietnam.
Now, it’s your turn.
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Last updated on March 13th, 2021
If you are looking for the best places to meet girls in San Francisco and a dating guide then you are in luck. We have some great tips on how to pick up single women and show them a good time in this city.
We will begin with the best nightclubs and singles bars to meet girls in San Francisco, and then talk about some day game spots as well as online dating. Once the best places to try and hook up with sexy ladies have been discussed our dating guide for San Francisco will take over.
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Picking up girls near you is only half the battle, you still need to be able to entertain her if you hope to see her again. This city is full of great date spots so it should be easy to find somewhere to go out and have a good time.
OK let’s get into the singles nightlife and then work our way around from there, and if you need to cross the bridge we have Oakland covered also.
Nightclubs & Pick Up Bars
Currently some of the top nightclubs and singles bars to pick up San Francisco girls would be:
- Mezzanine at 444 Jessie St
- Temple at 540 Howard St
- Madrone Art Bar at 500 Divisadero St
- Public Works at 161 Erie St
- F8 Nightclub & Bar at 1192 Folsom St
- Love + Propaganda at 85 Campton Pl
- Raven Bar at 1151 Folsom St
- DNA Lounge at 375 11th St
- Harlot at 46 Minna St
- Blue Light at 1979 Union St
- Playland at 1351 Polk St
- Tunnel Top Lounge & Bar at 601 Bush St
- Cat Club at 1190 Folsom St
- Bar None at 1980 Union St
- Rickhouse at 246 Kearny St
- Double Dutch at 3192 16th St
There are a few main singles nightlife districts here, if we had to choose one best place to stay it would be on Polk Street which is the main bar strip to hook up with San Francisco girls. Many of the nightclubs can be found in the area around 11th Street and Folsom so that would also be a good place to stay.
Of course renting a room near either won’t be cheap, but if you can afford it then it will make it a whole lot easier to get laid. Near the North Beach and around the Marina you will also find more singles nightlife and maybe a cute girl near you to hook up with.
We also covered the nightlife in San Jose if that interests you at all.
Meet San Francisco Girls During The Day
Day game is a controversial topic around the manosphere. Some guys will tell you that it is a great way to work on your game, others will tell you that it takes so much time that it isn’t worth your while.
Our best dating advice would be to take a shot if one is presented, but whether you want to go out specifically trying to pick up single San Francisco women during the day is a personal decision. There certainly are no lack of options here like:
- Ghirardelli Square
- Westfield
- Marina Green
- Fort Mason
- Metreon
- The Ferry Building Market
- Stonestown Galleria
You could also head over to the UC Berkeley campus where many uni girls will be hanging out in parks or cafes, though it is a bit outside of town. Visit the areas that San Francisco girls frequent and if you see one you like say hello and see how it goes.
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While day game is similar to laying a brick road online dating is like pouring concrete. One will take you a really long time but can still have great results, the other is far more efficient and gets the job done quickly.
If you are trying to meet a girlfriend online in San Francisco there are plenty of great dating sites to help you find your special someone. If you are just looking to hook up without having to enter into a commitment then there is really only one that we would suggest.
Adult Friend Finder has been helping guys and girls near you in California get laid for over a decade. You will find hundreds of single women in San Francisco using it to hook up and hundreds more around the Bay Area.
These girls know this site is all about getting laid, they aren’t looking for a husband. It may play out like that in the end, but Adult Friend Finder is here to help singles hook up, if that is what you are interested in then it is the right online dating site for you.
San Francisco Dating Guide
Now you know of many great places and ways to meet single girls near you and our San Francisco dating guide is going to help you to plan some wonderful nights together. We have linked you to many of the best restaurants and cocktail bars in the city for a date.
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They all have their menus listed, if you are on a budget and looking for a cheap date in San Francisco you can find a spot that is right for you:
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- Harris’ Restaurant at 2100 Van Ness Ave
- Foreign Cinema at 2534 Mission St
- Campton Place at 340 Stockton St
- Rich Table at 199 Gough St
- Waterfront Restaurant at 7 The Embarcadero
- La Ciccia at 291 30th St
- Local Edition at 691 Market St
- Smuggler’s Cove at 650 Gough St
For some good entertainment hit up a comedy club after you had dinner or drinks:
- Cobb’s Comedy Club at 915 Columbus Ave
- Killing My Lobster at 2101 Folsom St
You may also want to see if anything cool is showing at the Orpheum Thater on your date night.
Day Date Ideas
For a day date the Golden Gate Park and Bridge could work, but if she is a born and raised San Francisco girl that date idea may bore her. Other outdoor places you could go would be:
- Twin Peaks
- The Botanical Gardens
- The Presidio
If you want to involve alcohol on your date during the day try one of these bars with games and activities. They can be a pretty cheap date and give you something to do other than just talk across the table the entire time:
- Golden Gate Tap Room at 449 Powell S
- Urban Putt at 1096 S Van Ness Ave
- Coin-Op Game Room at 508 4th St
And for something a little more grown up you can take your San Francisco girl to:
- Museum of Modern Art
- de Young Museum
- Asian Art Museum
- Legion of Honor
For a quick weekend getaway maybe consider Sacramento.
Enjoy Dating San Francisco Girls
There certainly are plenty of good places to pick up single women near you or take them out here. Remember that last call at most places is 2am so if you are from out of town don’t try to show up at a club too late.
Get a hotel on Polk Street or around 11th and Folsom if you want to do a lot of partying in the nightlife. If you find yourself in a slump don’t forget about the single ladies on Adult Friend Finder, if all you want to do is get laid that site can be a great resource.
That wraps up our best places to meet girls in San Francisco and the dating guide, enjoy your time here.